Who are you? Who do you want to be?

In the beginning of our relationship, I was seeing the pastor at our church at least once a week. That was because I was recovering from my jerky X’s backstabbing. One day, three months after I met “D”, I was at one of my scheduled appointments with the pastor. I do not remember why, but on that particular day, I was really happy about “D”. I told my pastor how I was feeling. I told him that “D” is the best, and he is so perfect. I told him he is the best man in the whole world and I went on and on about D’s awesomeness. After a while, I finally came out of  D’s magic and looked at the pastor’s face. He had an expression of disapproval. I said, “What’s wrong? You look like, you do not believe me. He is really a good man.” He said, “Okay just wait a minute.” He went to get a pen and paper and drew a graph as seen in the picture below. (I still have that paper. I made this official looking picture for your understanding): (more…)


Small things matter: me time

Today is the day to get myself into a zone of positive energy. I already made a post on what I am thankful for this week.  I thought one more post on small gestures would be perfect for more positive energy to flow in.

If you did not notice by now, our relationship is not 50:50 but 80:20. Yes, “D” does most of the heavy lifting in our relationship. I am just happy that he loves me four times more than I love him. There is a old saying which goes something like this: “always be in a relationship with someone who loves you and not with someone who you love.” (more…)

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