Hello everyone,

I am girl from India,  and for the purpose of anonymity for now lets call me “R”. I moved to US of A  4.5 years ago to fulfill my lifetime goal and my parents dream of being a doctor here. I don’t want to sugar coat it. My life’s been rough both on professional and personal fronts. I made several mistakes and learned some costly lessons that almost cost me my life. I lived a great part of my life in darkness and fear, and finally I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel.  Initially I just wanted to make a blog where I could talk about my relationship with my boyfriend, (lets call him “D” for now,) but I realized that my story is much more than our  struggle for my parents’ acceptance. Don’t get me wrong, my boyfriend is one of the four most precious people in my life right now, others being my parents and my brother. I think my life’s always been very complicated, and I am stuck in spiders web. I want this blog to represent who I am, to be an inspiration to people like me  who have no one to talk to, who had to lose everything they were before they could find themselves again.  So in a nut shell this blog will be about our relationship, my family, my professional struggle and my general world view.

So, welcome to my world y’all. I hope you will have as much fun reading it as I have living it. 🙂


PS: Raina is not my real name.

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  1. This is a great blog. It’s wonderful to read it from an Indian girl’s perspective – your perspective on dating, relationships, elders, and also how you are dealing with your family. It warms my heart that you have found your soulmate in another country – you are very brave. I can really relate even though my husband is the Indian one – regarding the differences in cultures in dating, etc.

    • Raina

       /  July 29, 2013

      Thank you Alexandra. I feel like I learnt a lot since I came here. I have been exposed to so many different views of life and I refuse to go back to the Indian box thinking. That’s a problem for my parents. They call me a rebel. lol.

  2. Just went through and read all of your posts… Can relate to you having a nasty break up before meeting the love of my life and look forward to watching your story progress!!
    Nice to see an Indian girl unafraid to share her story! 🙂

    • Raina

       /  July 28, 2013

      Thank you. All the bloggers at desi links are a big inspiration for me. I have been reading your blog and many others for a while now. Finally got the courage to tell my story. Did not know how D would feel about it? I was so happy when he said he has no problem. He is a big encouragement. Looking forward to get more helpful tips from all of you guys on here.

      • That is so important having the support of your other half in whatever you do! I am sure that Alexandra’s blog will be invaluable for you as a south Indian and even for D to have a look at!!
        I am sure that in time your parents will see the love you have for D, the love he has for you and eventually come around. Ultimately every custom and tradition is to promote happiness, safety and prosperity. 🙂


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